Concerned for sister’s friend

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Updated: March 3, 2012 8:03AM

Dear Annie: I am a college freshman. My sister, “Katie,” is a sophomore in high school. I am on good terms with many of her friends. One, “Jessie,” is a bit wild.

In November, Jessie messaged me on Facebook. She said she had transferred to a private school because the public school “wasn’t good for rebels.”

She told me she drank and attended crazy parties. She said she often does her homework “while hammered,” and that she was writing me during Spanish class.

When I came home for winter break, I mentioned the conversation to Katie. She believes if I send this to Jessie’s parents, it will cause a huge rift between our families.

She thinks I should send it to Jessie’s school because they are the only ones who can effect any change.

Should I send this to her school? Wouldn’t they question my motives, especially since I’ve waited so long to do anything?

Confused College Student

Dear Student: You have no idea whether Jessie is telling the truth or simply trying to shock you. The message could even be a cry for help, in the hope that someone will care enough to be upset with her. Her parents are already aware of her problems, and we doubt the school is oblivious.

On your next trip home, it would be a kindness to drop by and talk to Jessie’s parents. Ask how she’s doing. If they think their daughter has shaped up, you should express your concern that this may not be so. You also can suggest to Jessie that she talk to the school counselor. But beyond that, we caution you to stay out of it.

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