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Updated: March 13, 2012 8:14AM

Dr. Wallace: I’m 17 and about as sad and depressed as a teen can be. My boyfriend left me for another girl. I loved Jeremy more than any human on Earth. He was my life. I went out of town during the Christmas break. My parents and I spent the holidays in Chicago with my brother and his family. We were gone for 10 days.

When I returned to school, I was excited to see Jeremy, but he didn’t seem that interested in seeing me. I could tell instantly that something was terribly wrong. When I asked him what was wrong, he said that he went to a Christmas Eve party and met this girl. They really hit it off. He told me that he wanted to continue seeing her and he wouldn’t be seeing me anymore. He then turned, went to his car and drove off. He hasn’t contacted me since.

I am at a loss for words. I feel abandoned and alone. My family is doing what they can to get me out of my rut, but it hasn’t helped. All I do is cry, over-eat, cry, over-study and then cry again. I’m deeply depressed. Some words of encouragement will be appreciated.

Nameless, Cedar Rapids, Iowa

Nameless: The loss of a true love is difficult to overcome. It matters not if you are 17 or 71. Please read the following email from Hannah who had a similar unpleasant experience. Her words will give you great hope that there is life after a lost love. The saying, “All’s well that ends well” is very true.

Dr. Wallace: Please print my letter. It might save some teens a lot of heartache and depression over a lost love. Eight months ago, the guy I thought was my one and only true love left me for another girl. I was crushed — totally devastated! I cried every night for two months and sank so low that I contemplated taking my life. I was deciding what method was the easiest.

My best friend, who was very worried about my emotional health, talked me into going out with her cousin. At first I didn’t want to go, but when she agreed to make the evening a double date, I reluctantly agreed. That turned out to be the luckiest day of my life! Thanks to Jim and my trust in the almighty, my life is beautiful. Jim is a marvelous human being and I dearly love him. I laugh when I think of my old boyfriend, which is seldom.

Teens, when a breakup causes you to be depressed and lonely, please remember my letter. No matter how blue you feel, there is someone out there who will make you forget about your misery. Start looking today!

Hannah, Greenville, Miss.

Hannah: Thanks for caring about your fellow teens. I’m sure the young lady from Cedar Rapids will find hope after reading your letter.

Write to Dr. Wallace at
rwallace@galesburg.net