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Wedding planner woes

Updated: March 27, 2012 8:07AM



Dear Miss Manners: I am planning a wedding for my friend and her fiance, but it has become frustrating. They cannot agree on anything.

I am very curious as to exactly how much involvement or say a groom should have about his wedding. Other friends say the wedding is all about the bride so the groom should have no say, but others think the groom should have some say because it is his wedding, too.

Gentle Reader: Never mind whose wedding it is. Miss Manners’ advice is not to make any wedding plans for this couple that cannot be canceled without penalty.

Dear Miss Manners: On a trip visiting relatives, one thing baffled me. They do not put any garbage bags in their bathroom garbage cans.

So, I am always wondering if they are intended to be used or if they are just for decoration.

What would be the appropriate way to handle this? Should I bring my own garbage bag and use that and take it out when I leave? Should I use the garbage can provided?

Gentle Reader: Lining a wastebasket may be convenient, but is certainly not necessary. One does not expect garbage in the bathroom. It is thoughtful of you to want to spare your hosts the sight of your trash, but you can do that by emptying it into their garbage can once, at the end of your stay.

Write to Miss Manners at www.missmanners.com



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