Husband dislikes wife’s friend
June 4, 2012 3:52PM
Updated: July 6, 2012 8:40AM
Dear Annie: My wonderful wife and I have been married for a little less than a year. Though I love her with all my heart, I absolutely do not get along with one of her friends. “Sherry” is negative, overdramatic and incredibly self-centered. She bullies my wife and expects to receive far more support than she’s willing to give.
When Sherry moved to another city, I figured we were both finally free of this woman. But I was mistaken. Within a couple of months, Sherry demanded that we visit her and spend the weekend. She now expects us to reciprocate at a moment’s notice, inviting herself to stay at our place and baby-sit her kids whenever she comes to town to shop and have her hair done.
My wife knows how I feel about Sherry. I have tried hard to keep my mouth shut and be away from the house when she comes by. But my veneer of politeness is only able to withstand so much. The thought of having to deal with a person like this for the rest of my life nauseates me to the point where I’m seriously considering divorce. Any advice?
Ready to Walk
Dear Ready: You’re being a little overdramatic yourself. We can see that Sherry is a pain and you can’t stand the sight of her, but divorce is an extreme reaction. Please allow your wife to have her own friends. You get to avoid the ones you dislike. Don’t ever visit Sherry. If she comes to your town, you and your wife should suggest she stay elsewhere, and your wife can meet up with her in a neutral spot. If your wife insists that Sherry stay with you, absent yourself as much as possible (or pack a bag and stay with friends). Over time, Sherry will discover shops and hair salons closer to her new home, and these visits will become less frequent. Please be patient, and let distance do the job of making the friendship lapse.
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