Friends skimming pain pills
June 12, 2012 1:22PM
Updated: July 14, 2012 6:01AM
Dear Annie: I had several surgeries during the past year and needed help from friends during my recovery. They have been generous with their time, caring for me and my three boys so my husband could work. They even helped with meals and chores. I have paid them in cash and gifts to show my gratitude.
The problem is, I caught two of my friends stealing my pain medications. The first incident was so blatant that I immediately ended our relationship. I then caught the second friend skimming a few pills every visit. There is no mistake. After the first incident, I began keeping track, and it was clear that two pills were missing every time this particular friend visited. I know if I confronted him, he would deny it or blame someone else, so I haven’t bothered.
Now my pills are locked up, which makes it inconvenient for me. But I can’t seem to forgive or forget. I feel violated and taken advantage of and can’t seem to move forward. Please advise.
Out of Meds in California
Dear California: If these friends are addicted to pain pills, they probably could not control themselves when access was so simple. You have taken the necessary steps to be sure there is no additional theft. However, it sounds as if you need to get this off your chest. If it will make you feel better, tell the second friend that you are aware that he stole your pills. State it as a matter of fact, not as a question, and suggest he get professional help for his addiction. Don’t argue with him. Other than an admission of guilt or an apology, his response is irrelevant. This is for your benefit, not his.
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