Girl gets a kick out of flirting
June 22, 2012 1:12PM
Updated: July 24, 2012 9:43AM
Dr. Wallace: I’m considered to be a very attractive young female. For the past three months I’ve been dating Connor, who is every girl’s dream. He’s beyond handsome, highly intelligent, has a marvelous sense of humor and is the star basketball player on our school basketball team. He is the best date that I have ever gone out with, and I want our relationship to continue. I don’t want to lose him.
But if I don’t change one of my flaws, it could happen. When Connor and I are on a date and I see a cute guy giving me the “eye,” I respond by winking at him and then giving him my best smile. Of course, Connor has never seen me flirt. I really get a rush when the guy I’m flirting with winks and smiles back at me.
Honestly, I wouldn’t dump Connor for any of the guys I flirt with, but I just can’t seem to make it stop. What makes me flirt? It’s like I’m addicted to being a flirt.
Nameless, New York City
Nameless: When boys respond to your wink and smile, you are having needs satisfied — the need to be wanted and the need to feel desirable. This also shows a lack of maturity on your part. Since Connor is almost the perfect guy, you had better keep your eyes on him and him alone. That way your eyes won’t wander and you won’t be tempted to flirt.
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