Sex is not a game for teens to play
June 22, 2012 2:34PM
Updated: July 25, 2012 6:24AM
Dr. Wallace: I notice that almost all of your letters concerning teenage pregnancy come from girls. I’m a guy, and I would like to tell my sad story.
I’m now 17, but when I was 16, I met a real nice girl. After about two weeks, I started pressing her to have sex. She told me no because she was afraid of getting pregnant. It took me two more weeks to convince her that I knew what I was doing and it was impossible for her to get pregnant. She relented, and three months later, her parents made her have an abortion.
Complications set in and she almost died. Her parents then made her move to her grandmother’s house in another state to get away from me. I have now found out that this girl can never have children just because I was stupid and selfish.
I’ve had a lot of time to think about what has happened, and I take full responsibility. I’m truly sorry for my stupidity. It will never happen again. It’s too bad that I had to learn the hard way, but believe me, Dr. Wallace, I did learn. I know that my girlfriend suffered more than I, but I, too, have suffered from my mistake.
Boys, I implore you to please learn that sex is not a game for teens to play! It has complications, and the end result could be as tragic as it was in my case.
Nameless: Thanks for sharing your unfortunate experience with our teen readers. Mother Nature doesn’t care if the couple involved in sexual relations is or is not of age or married, when the male’s sperm comes in contact with the female’s egg. Conception occurs and conception is the beginning of a human life.
When teens are sexually involved and pregnancy occurs, stress enters the lives of both the teens and their families. Many decisions must be made and as in your situation, some lives are damaged forever!
Dr. Wallace: You recently printed a letter from the adopted daughter who was concerned about her “real mother,” as she put it.
The nicest story I have ever experienced about this subject concerned a little boy who was troubled by the fact that he was adopted and his siblings were not.
His mother sat him down and said, “We had many choices, but remember, we picked you, and you will always be special to us.”
When we, as parents, have “natural” children we have to accept what God has given us.
Clyde, La Verne, Calif.
Clyde: Thanks for sharing your heartwarming story and your wonderful words of wisdom. Both the girl’s adoptive mother and the little boy’s adoptive mother chose to give these children a real home and in my book, they both deserve the title of a “real” mother.
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