Relatives must be self-motivated
July 31, 2012 1:42PM
Updated: September 2, 2012 6:03AM
Dear Annie: My parents and siblings often complain that they can’t lose weight. However, they douse their food in salt and sauces, drink alcohol before bed, and have no qualms about pulling out the potato chips or chocolate candy. I used to be like them, but I’ve lost a great deal of weight and feel fantastic.
When my family complains about their weight, I suggest that they accompany me on my walks or eat the same foods I eat, but they decline. They tease me when I measure out portion sizes or choose healthier options for my meals. They congratulate me when they notice my continuing weight loss, but then they urge me to “slow down.” What does this mean? Are they jealous of my success?
Annie, I can’t stand to watch them put unhealthy things into their mouths anymore. What do I do?
Healthier and Happier
Dear Healthier: Nothing. You have discovered that losing weight is important for your health, but you didn’t do it because someone told you to. Your relatives must be self-motivated. The most you can do is set a good example by modeling the type of behavior that will help them.
When they are ready, they will take the next step. It’s possible they are jealous, or they may be genuinely concerned that you have some type of eating disorder. You should continue to focus on your own good habits and do your best not to lecture them on theirs. If eating around them is too difficult, take your meals elsewhere.
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