Girl wishes she had said no to sex
August 28, 2012 1:14PM
Updated: September 30, 2012 6:02AM
Dr. Wallace: My boyfriend and I dated steadily for 18 months. He was the perfect guy. He was sweet, polite, sensitive, caring, humorous and he treated me wonderfully. We discussed having sex when we were ready to accept the responsibility, but he never pressured me.
After many discussions, we both agreed that sharing sex would be the ultimate display of love and would seal our love forever. He and I only had sex two times. After the first time, things changed. I didn’t know what his problem was. Our second encounter was a month after the first, and believe it or not, I was the aggressor. I’m still in shock about this.
A week later, he called me and said that he still “cared” for me, but he didn’t want to go out with me again. When I asked him why, he couldn’t or wouldn’t give me an answer. Two months have passed and whenever I see him, all we say to each other is “Hi,” and then he looks the other way.
He is dating another girl now, and I get upset whenever I see him with her. He was supposed to be mine. I keep asking myself, “Why did he dump me?” The answer is probably because I gave him everything, and once he had everything, he moved on.
Oklahoma City, Okla.
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