Friendship becomes difficult
September 13, 2012 2:34PM
Updated: October 15, 2012 9:13AM
Dear Annie: I am a teenager in high school with two close friends, “Emma” and “Vienna.” Emma was recently diagnosed with OCD and bipolar disorder. Ever since the diagnosis, there have been many conflicts. Emma is now really sensitive, and if Vienna or I say anything even mildly offensive, she gets super-angry.
This past summer, we all worked at a local kids’ camp. When one of the instructors joked around, Emma took it seriously and became upset. She then talked with the instructor and his boss. All I know is that it didn’t end well, and Emma quit.
I will often get a call from Emma saying she is lonely and needs someone to talk to. She likes to reminisce, regretting things she said and did in the past. I try to comfort her by keeping her company.
I have just started a new high school and am no longer with Emma and Vienna. Emma insists that I will ditch them for new friends, making them both feel like they have done something wrong. Vienna and I know we can’t begin to understand what it’s like to have both OCD and bipolar disorder, but we can’t live like this. We are always worrying about Emma and don’t know what to do.
A Worried Friend
Dear Friend: Those with bipolar disorder often have periods of depression. If Emma also has OCD, she may become fixated on certain negative thoughts during these times. While you can be reassuring and supportive, there is only so much you can do to combat Emma’s innate doubts. We trust that her parents are making sure that she is getting appropriate medical care. Please try to be patient with her, but understand that not all friendships survive high school.
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