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Mother-in-law is a bully

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Updated: November 25, 2012 6:04AM



Dear Annie: I’ve been out of work for two years. My family has suffered greatly, and my daughter’s mild depression turned severe when this started affecting her life.

Recently, my in-laws were kind enough to let the three of us move in so we could save what little we have. But the summer could not have gone worse. My mother-in-law has turned into a bully. She doesn’t approve of how I raise my daughter and has been taking it out on the child. Mom calls her hurtful names and has told her that all of our financial problems are her fault. My husband has spoken to his mother numerous times, and I have, as well. But she is stubborn.

My daughter has a history of self-harm and low self-esteem, so we began to work on alternate living situations. Sadly, I know the best place for my daughter right now is not with her stepfather and me. Now she’s living with her biological father, and it breaks my heart. He’s a good dad, but I feel like I let her down.

Mother in Mud

Dear Mother: You made the right choice to get your daughter out of the home of your bullying, stubborn mother-in-law. While we would have recommended that your husband put his foot down a little harder, apparently neither of you could set boundaries that stick. Until this situation is resolved, it may not be possible to forgive the woman for her unconscionable behavior. Please find a way to get out of there soon.

Write to anniesmailbox@comcast.net



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