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Updated: December 29, 2012 6:05AM



Dr. Wallace: I’m attending the University of California at Berkeley, and I’m in my first year away from home and my girlfriend. We have been dating for over a year, and I love her very much. My problem is that I have met a very interesting girl in my English literature class. We have had several “study” dates and have gone to a movie together several times. Last night when we were studying together in the library, she suddenly looked at me and said, “Matt, I love you,” and before I could think straight, I blurted out, “I love you, too.” Now I’ve got a big problem. I think I really do love my girlfriend Carla, but I think I love this new girl, too. I don’t think I could choose one if I had to, and neither girl knows about the other one. Help!

Nameless, Riverside, Calif.

Nameless: Contact Carla and tell her that you would like to date a girl on campus and that it would be best if you both dated others while you are in college, and that, of course, when you return home for the holidays and summer you both can still enjoy dating. Then explain to the new girl that you had been dating Carla, but that you have agreed you will both date others while you are in college. Forget the “I love you” bit. Enjoy dating and being a teen, and lay off the heavy romantic stuff for now. There is plenty of time for that when you are sure that a girl is truly your “one and only.”

Write to Dr. Wallace
at rwallace@galesburg.net



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