Updated: January 9, 2013 6:03AM
Dr. Wallace: I’m 16 and so are all of my school friends, both girls and guys. I’ve been invited to attend a party at a friend’s house. My friend’s parents will be on vacation and will be out of the country for three weeks. My friend isn’t wild, but at times she can be a bit “spicy.”
When I was invited, she told me to make sure I didn’t tell my parents about the party because her parents won’t be there and no adults will substitute as chaperones. I do want to go because most of my very best friends will be attending. I could tell my parents that I’m going to a movie with a girlfriend, and I doubt if my parents would find out about the party, but lying to them would bother me.
What should I do? I’d be crushed if I told my parents the truth, and they told me “No way are you going to a party with no chaperones.” I’m pretty sure that there will not be any drugs at the party, but I’m sure there will be alcohol. I do not drink so I would not drink at the party.
Nameless: Be totally honest with your parents. Let them know that you really want to attend your friend’s party because many of your good friends will be there. Let them know that there probably will be alcohol available, but not drugs, and, of course, you would not be drinking. Tell mom and dad that you will call them to pick you up if something unexpected arises. If your parents forbid you to attend, don’t make a big issue of it.
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