Updated: January 20, 2013 6:06AM
Dr. Wallace: I’m 19, married and the mother of a 7-month-old daughter. My husband and I are blessed to have a beautiful happy baby. I was 17 and my husband was 18 when we were married two weeks after we graduated from high school. We had been going together for three years. We were the exception rather than the rule. Both my husband and I were virgins when we were married.
I’m really troubled about the wanton sex that abounds on television and in the movies, especially the sexual aggressiveness of the girls and young women. It seems like “everyone is doing it,” but common sense tells me that shocking sexual displays are seen mostly on the screen. Common decency doesn’t make money.
I want my daughter to grow up with a pure heart and a love for life. What can I do to ensure that my daughter chooses to wait until marriage before becoming sexually active? I would die a million deaths if my daughter used sex to secure or keep a boyfriend.
Mother, St. Charles, Ill.
Mother: There is a strong correlation between poor self-esteem and how early kids get sexually involved. Children who are loved and respected by their parents and have an honest, open relationship with mom and dad are much less apt to be sexually active than those parents who feel their children are a burden that prohibits their way of life.
High self-esteem with teens can also be a deterrent for other undesirable qualities, including drugs, alcohol and social behavior. Nobody ever said it was easy to be an effective parent, but parents are the best role models for their children. Children do what they see and learn at home.
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