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Updated: January 29, 2013 6:07AM



Dr. Wallace: We have a rule at our junior high school during after-school dances: If a girl asks a boy or a boy asks a girl to dance, the only answer the person can give is “yes.” In other words, he or she can’t say, “Thanks for asking, but I don’t care to dance.”

At our last dance, a boy I literally despise asked me to dance, and I told him to get lost. He told the principal that I wouldn’t dance with him, and the principal banned me from attending the next dance.

I think this is outrageous! This particular guy is a jerk. He smokes, swears, steals, cheats and is uncouth. I shouldn’t be punished for not letting a loser like him get close to me. The truth is that, if I’d said yes, I should have been banned from attending future dances because I was stupid enough to dance with him.

My mom called the principal to complain, but she was told that I knew the rule and that he wasn’t going to change his decision. I feel the “must dance” rule is stupid. Please give me your thoughts on this miscarriage of justice. I’d like to sign my name, but I don’t want to get suspended.

Nameless, Fullerton, Calif.

Nameless: I assume the principal is trying to make sure that after-school dances are not occasions for rejection and also to encourage the shy and under-confident to come out of their shells and participate. This is a laudable goal, but I can’t say I’m sold on the “must dance” rule and the removal of students’ freedom of choice in the matter.

However, you knew the rule, and you broke the rule, so the punishment was fair. But if you do plan to attend the next dance, talk with the principal beforehand and ask what you should do if this same boy asks you to dance with him again. His answer might keep you from attending.

Write to Dr. Wallace
at rwallace@galesburg.net



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