Dear Harriette: To my surprise, I found out my church will not have its annual New Year’s celebration this year. I was a bit taken aback by the sudden announcement. Now I’m scrambling to figure out how I’m going to bring in the new year. As you know, going out on New Year’s Eve in New York City can be one of the most expensive nights of your life. Can you offer some cost-effective ways I can spend New Year’s Eve without breaking the bank?
Happy New Year,
Dear Happy New Year: It is true that many people go out to fancy parties on New Year’s Eve. The reality in New York City is that you can find activities at any price point. You just have to look around.
But I think it would be more to your taste to craft your own activity. If you are accustomed to bringing in the new year in prayer, don’t give up on that.
Do you have a group of friends at your church? If so, you may want to gather a few church members for a party at someone’s home.
Or visit another church that is having a special event. In that way, you can bring in the new year in fellowship and without breaking the bank.
Dear Harriette: I have a part-time job with a theater company, and the annual holiday party is this week. My manager has told me I will be the bartender for the evening. I am uncomfortable with the request, because I’m active in my church and I feel like there would be a conflict of interest with my personal beliefs.
I’m not sure what I should do. I’m torn, because it’s the holiday season and I need the extra money.
Dear Reluctant Bartender: You should never do something that goes against your core beliefs. So it’s time to evaluate what they are.
Does your church teach that you cannot serve or drink alcohol?
Do you believe it is immoral to do either? Also, did you know when you took the job that you might have to serve alcohol?
If you knew, then the bigger issue is that you took the job without considering what would happen when the day came that you had to serve. If you didn’t know, it makes sense that you now have concerns.
Go to your boss and explain your problem. Ask if there is any other role that you could fulfill at the company that might be more comfortable for you.
Ultimately, if the boss needs you to do that job and you don’t want to, you may have to quit. Are you ready to make that decision?
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