Why the attraction to wild guys?
By Dr. Robert Wallace ’Tween 12 and 20 January 16, 2013 12:52PM
Updated: February 19, 2013 11:48AM
Dr. Wallace: I met Mike at a concert and started going out with him soon after the event. Mike was a cool cat. Yes, he was into alcohol and drugs, and yes, he has a criminal record, but he is full of life and an exciting guy.
A month ago, I came home from a date with alcohol on my breath, and my dad blew his mind. Mike and he got into a huge argument and Mike used some nasty adjectives.
I’m 16 and have been out with quite a few guys, but none of them turned me on more than Mike. I’m on restriction and have promised my parents that I will never go out with him again, and I will keep that promise.
My question is this — why do so many girls like to go out with “wild” guys? All of us girls know these guys are double trouble, but we still gravitate to them.
Ashley: There aren’t a lot of girls who get a thrill from going out with wild guys, but there are certainly some. Perhaps it’s the excitement of self-destruction. Some women even “fall in love” with murderers on death row.
Most females who go through an “I like losers” phase eventually grow out of it — usually after one or several traumatic experiences with such guys.
Your broken heart will mend soon enough, and
you will meet a nice guy
who has greater ambitions than drinking, smoking pot or putting cocaine up his nose.
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