Why the attraction to wild guys?
By Dr. Robert Wallace ’Tween 12 and 20 January 16, 2013 12:52PM
Updated: February 19, 2013 11:48AM
Dr. Wallace: I met Mike at a concert and started going out with him soon after the event. Mike was a cool cat. Yes, he was into alcohol and drugs, and yes, he has a criminal record, but he is full of life and an exciting guy.
A month ago, I came home from a date with alcohol on my breath, and my dad blew his mind. Mike and he got into a huge argument and Mike used some nasty adjectives.
I’m 16 and have been out with quite a few guys, but none of them turned me on more than Mike. I’m on restriction and have promised my parents that I will never go out with him again, and I will keep that promise.
My question is this — why do so many girls like to go out with “wild” guys? All of us girls know these guys are double trouble, but we still gravitate to them.
Ashley, Houston
Ashley: There aren’t a lot of girls who get a thrill from going out with wild guys, but there are certainly some. Perhaps it’s the excitement of self-destruction. Some women even “fall in love” with murderers on death row.
Most females who go through an “I like losers” phase eventually grow out of it — usually after one or several traumatic experiences with such guys.
Your broken heart will mend soon enough, and
you will meet a nice guy
who has greater ambitions than drinking, smoking pot or putting cocaine up his nose.
Write to Dr. Wallace
at rwallace@galesburg.net
