Updated: March 3, 2013 6:03AM
Dr. Wallace: My boyfriend and I had been dating for over five months, and I really believed that he truly was “the one.” He was cute, smart and great fun to be with. He was polite and treated me with respect. So I was devastated to find that he did not have similar feelings for me. Three weeks ago, he told me he wanted to date another girl, and we would no longer be dating.
I was shocked to think that he no longer wanted to date me, and I have never felt more depressed in my whole life. It has been impossible to forget him, and I’ve been spending all my time in my room studying. I can’t seem to get involved in any school events and I’m feeling very sad all the time. How long will these feelings last, and how can I get over this and get my life back in order?
Nameless: You will recover from your broken romance, but it will take some time. Time is the healer of all wounds, both physical and emotional. I know it’s hard to believe, but it’s true, so you just need to stop dwelling on the breakup and begin the healing process by keeping busy.
It’s good that you have been concentrating on your schoolwork during this difficult time, but you also need to make some effort to participate in social events. Get involved in school, church or community activities that interest you.
Call your girlfriends and organize fun outings with them. The worst thing you can do is to sit at home and brood over your ex-boyfriend.
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