Updated: March 9, 2013 6:07AM
Dr. Wallace: I’m 20, and my fiance is 22. We plan to get married in five months. I care about Ken a lot. About six months ago, his ex-girlfriend called and warned me that he had a horrible temper and had, on several occasions, struck her; once she even had to receive treatment at the emergency room. She said she didn’t want me to find out the hard way that he was violent. Since Ken never displayed any sort of violence toward me, I dismissed her call and thought she must simply have been jealous.
Last week I was supposed to meet Ken at a restaurant for dinner, but I was 15 minutes late. When I got to the restaurant, Ken was visibly upset. He grabbed my wrist and told me that if I ever “stood him up” again, he’d break my neck. His grip on my wrist was so strong I couldn’t move my fingers.
This action shook me up. I never expected it.
I saw him the next day and he acted like nothing had happened. He was sweet and asked me questions about our upcoming wedding. What should I do? Please hurry with your response.
Louise, Los Angeles
Louise: Heed his ex-girlfriend’s warning, and do not — I repeat — do not marry this guy! If you do, your life will be a nightmare.
Your fiance has a serious emotional flaw and needs professional help. Do not allow him to sweet talk you into believing that his outburst was a one-time thing. It will happen again. Leave this guy immediately and don’t look back!
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