Jealousy clouds thinking
By Kathy Mitchell & Marcy Sugar Annie’s Mailbox February 22, 2013 1:48PM
Updated: March 24, 2013 6:03AM
Dear Annie: I always felt that my mother and I were inseparable. I never thought I would be blessed to marry a wonderful man and that it would damage our relationship, but it did.
My mom has had a great influence on my life for 32 years, but this had to end. She only developed a problem with my then-boyfriend when she saw that it was serious. She tried everything to break us up, including having him investigated. I chose to pray and follow my heart and not listen to her. I’m happy I did.
Mom did not come to my wedding and refuses to come to my house, saying I chose a man over her. But, Annie, I cannot allow her to continue to be so disrespectful of my husband. Please tell your readers that trying to control your children will only push them away and create resentment. My mom centered her life around me and now feels lost.
Is there anything I can do?
Missing My Mother but Loving My Husband
Dear Missing: Your mother’s jealousy has clouded her thinking, and instead of a close, warm relationship with you, your husband and your future children, she has isolated herself in bitterness.
We hope you will give her the opportunity to get past this, although it may take time and a good deal of forgiveness on your part. Continue to reach out to
her periodically, inviting her to your home with the understanding that she must treat your husband with decency.
Over time, we suspect she will miss you enough to make the effort.
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