Updated: March 24, 2013 6:06AM
Dr. Wallace: My mother has always thought of me as the perfect daughter. I get excellent grades; I’m a yell leader, and I’m the junior class secretary. My mother is a perfectionist, and she expects me to be the same. She constantly tells me that she has big plans for me to eventually join my father’s law firm.
My mother always tells me that I am the love of her life, but I’m not so sure. When I do good, I get praise; if I win an award, I get special praise, but when I fumble, my mother throws a tantrum. Please tell me what I can do to get my mother to accept me as I am, not what she wants me to be.
Nameless, Peoria, Ill.
Nameless: A parent must convey love to a teenager and be supportive in the good times, as well as the not so good times.
A mother’s love must be unconditional all the time.
Continue to do your very best in all your endeavors. In time, your mom will support you in the path you choose, but the main person you must please is yourself. Doing your very best will give you a great feeling of satisfaction.
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