Updated: September 5, 2013 6:29AM
Dr. Wallace: Several years ago, a senior citizen wrote to you saying that today’s teens are not so bad and that when she was young, teens were doing a lot of things that were frowned upon by the adults at that time.
I am going to give a speech for a parent group, and I would like to mention some of her comments to my adult audience. Would you please print that column again? I’m sure those who missed the lady’s letter will also enjoy it. Thanks much.
Sandy: Your wish is my command. Here is the letter — good luck with your speech!
Dr. Wallace: I’m a senior citizen (I’m not saying how senior), and I just want to say that even though I hear a lot of negative things about today’s teens, I have total faith in their future leadership. I’m aware that many adults think today’s teens are out of control, but so did the adults when I was a teenager in Columbus, Ohio.
Those were the days of bootleg whisky, and the boys often brought a bottle to school, and their friends, including me, would take a nip or two.
I often hear that the teen fashions today are outrageous. Well, back then the girls were bobbing their hair, wearing heavy rouge, not only on their cheeks, but also on their chins and eyelids. Girls wore hobble skirts, and their belts were worn around their hips, not their waists. The “in shoes” were black satin pumps. And, believe it or not, teen talk included “free love” and smoking marijuana.
So you see, teens don’t change, only the times do. Whenever I hear adults talking about the out-of-control teens of today, I just smile and remember those good old teen years many years ago.
Charleston, W. Va.
Dr. Wallace: I have a very unusual problem. I’m 19 and had been dating Phil for over a year and we were a great couple. Phil joined the Army and was sent overseas after basic training. Before he left, we both agreed that it would be better if we both dated others if we had the chance.
Two months after Phil was sent overseas, I met Ken at my cousin’s wedding and we started dating. I have discovered that I care a lot about Ken. He’s a college graduate and works for an insurance company. We have developed a wonderful relationship even though Phil is still on my mind.
Last week I received a letter from Phil saying he had injured his knee and the doctors felt it best that he receive a medical discharge. He also said he would be returning home in six weeks. This came as a big shock to me. I know Phil thinks we’ll pick up our relationship where we left it off — at a point where we had strong feelings for each other.
Now another guy has entered the picture. I told Ken about my relationship with Phil and that he would be coming home to stay in six weeks. Ken said he understood and would gladly bow out, but I’m not so sure that’s what I want. Your advice will be appreciated.
Teri, San Francisco, Calif.
Teri: Wait until Phil returns before you make a decision. Give him a warm welcome and spend some time with him. It won’t take you very long to know whether the magic is still there, and who the lucky guy turns out to be. Make sure Ken understands what you plan to do.
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