This guy could use professional counseling
By Dr. Robert Wallace ’Tween 12 and 20 August 30, 2013 2:34PM
Updated: October 2, 2013 6:17AM
DR. WALLACE: I met a guy at a party, and we hit it off big time and have been dating ever since. For the first three weeks, we had a terrific relationship. Then he started making small demands, such as: “Don’t wear that sweater again when you’re with me.” Or “Change the color of your lipstick; it’s too bright.”
Almost every week his demands become more demanding and more frequent. He wanted me to change my hair color and style, stop wearing jeans, dress more conservatively and finally, to stop seeing my best friend because she told him off a week ago.
I enjoy being with him. He’s a gentleman, not sexually aggressive, handsome and intelligent. I’m hoping that he will stop being so demanding, because this is really his only flaw.
What should I do? My best friend wants me to dump him because she thinks that he has an emotional problem, but I think she is just saying that because she personally doesn’t like him. Please give me your thoughts regarding my “problem,” and if you think I should continue seeing him, what should I do to curb his demanding behavior?
Nameless, Michigan City, Ind.
NAMELESS: No woman needs that kind of “gentleman” in her life. He might be intelligent and charming, but he is also possessive, manipulative and controlling. These are traits that only get worse the more you put up with them. It never works to let someone go on being a jerk.
This guy may very well need professional counseling. I agree with your best friend. Stop seeing this guy now. If you don’t, your life with him will grow increasingly miserable.
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