Think about leaving positive legacy

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Updated: July 25, 2011 12:17AM

“I remember the day as clear as it was yesterday,” Bill Martin of Highland recalled. “I was barely 7 and it was the end-of-the-year school field day. I was sure I would win the race competition for my class because everyone said I was as fast as the wind.”

Martin lined up with the other boys and was off like a shot when the whistle blew. Unfortunately, young Bill had failed to check his shoelaces and, yes, he stumbled and fell to the grass. Momentarily stunned, he got up and finished the race — tears streaming down his face — dead last.

Relating his misfortune to his father that night, Martin bemoaned the fact that everyone would always remember his disgrace.

“Dad looked me in the eye and told me that while some might remember my tumble, most would recall how I got up and finished what I started,” Martin said.

This weekend, we celebrate Memorial Day, a time to remember not only our soldiers and veterans, but also our loved ones who stay close through memories. Perhaps it might also be a good time to reflect on how we would like to be remembered.

Some people want to be remembered for their work, their love for family and friends, or special talents or interests. Parents see their own immortality in the faces of their children and grandchildren. Others might want to be marked by their success, wealth or good looks. Obviously, those few cling to the notion that perhaps you can, indeed, take it with you.

Will we be remembered for our kind words, gentle smile or easy laughter? Or will others think back and note our hurtful words, bitterness and unwillingness to enjoy anything about life?

Interesting, don’t you think? How would you want to be remembered?

Rene Carczak, Hammond: “I hope I will be remembered as a woman who tried to live my Christianity, even during those times when I failed miserably.”

Marta Flores, Griffith: “After I’m gone, I think I might be remembered as a person who showed her love for her family and friends through love and lots of good cooking.”

Joe Koval, Merrillville: “I think I will be remembered for my love of sports. Before I got older and the old body gave out, I spent many years coaching as a volunteer. My goal always was to teach the love of the game, rather than the need to win at any cost. I hope that’s a life lesson some of the kids took with them into adulthood.”

Caleb Daniels, Valparaiso: “I guess I might be remembered for my sense of humor; I get that from my mother. So many people today think funny means cruel, but I’ve never found any humor in that. I try to make sure my laughter is inclusive, rather than exclusive.”

Loretta Schorr, Merrillville: “I’d like to be remembered as one who loved each day of life and found joy in others. I try to always remind myself that, no matter what the tough times bring, there’s always a positive to be found.”