Gary natives’ website is an homage to marriage
March 21, 2012 3:54PM
Aukesha Henry-Cherry and Ben Cherry, both former Gary residents now living in Arizona, created the website www.weloveourmarriage.com. | Photo Provided
Updated: March 21, 2012 4:14PM
Ben “Jammin” Cherry and Aukesha Henry-Cherry “love their marriage” so much they created the website www.weloveourmarriage.com.
As a single woman who has yet to walk down the aisle in a wedding dress or an ugly bridesmaid dress, I needed to know why Aukesha and Ben created this website.
And what better time to run this column than today, Black Marriage Day, created in 2001 by another organization.
A little background on Ben and Aukesha; both are Gary natives now living in Arizona. They married April 10, 2004, and have a beautiful 3-year-old daughter. I met them on the job covering events where I’d cross paths with Ben, who is a photographer and cinematographer, or at the Gary Southshore RailCats games where then Aukesha Henry worked for the team’s administration.
They met when Ben was shooting a local cable news show for which Aukesha was a correspondent.
Little did I know at the time, they were not only friends but they eventually started dating after eight years of friendship.
“I was in a relationship and so was Aukesha but one day I was at the stadium filming a commercial and I saw Aukesha and heard a voice say Aukesha will be my wife and the mother of my child,” Ben said. “I did not know what to think because Aukesha and I were friends.”
Eventually they ended their relationships and started dating.
“We got married after dating for a year, but there was still a transition needed,” Aukesha said. “Yes … I had to transcend from friend to husband because I was still treating her like a homegirl and she let me know that she was my wife.”
Both said God has been a major part of them overcoming challenges and in 2006 they created a project to celebrate holy matrimony.
“At first it was going to be a DVD but every time we worked on it, the devil intercepted and we lapsed on it,” Ben said. “It was not until last year that we said God wants us to complete this and the idea of the website happened. Our purpose is to show that marriage is a privilege, not a punishment.”
† Gary native and producer for BET.com John Reed comes home March 30 to host a Youth Summit from 1:30 to 3:30 p.m. at West Side Leadership Academy. It’s a return to his roots with his Music Is Therapy Foundation.
Later, at 8 p.m., Reed is hosting the adult event (25 years and older) Music Is Therapy — Ciroc All White Affair at the Genesis Convention Center. Tickets are $20 general admission, $40 for VIP.
Proceeds benefit the Music Is Therapy Foundation and youth empowerment programs. For more information call 885-9871 or order VIP tickets online at musicistherapy-efbevent.eventbrite.com.