Post-Tribune Latest news from Post-Tribune Online en-us (Editor) Post-Tribune 84 34 30 Copyright 2014 <![CDATA[ Health briefs for Sept. 17 ]]> Lead story image

Mental Health program Porter County Coroner Chuck Harris will be at Housing Opportunities, 2001 Calumet Ave., Valparaiso, at 1 p.m. Sept. 25 to share the local impact and history of mental health issues and substance abuse and offer hopeful solutions for a healthier tomorrow, according to a press release about the program. The training is called “The True Face of Drug-related and Mental Health Deaths in Porter County,” and Harris will discuss different relevant points, the release said. Those interested in attending should email Nicki Porras at Porter County Health Walk set A walk that raises funds for heart … ]]> Wed, 17 Sep 2014 02:08:51 -0500 <![CDATA[ No-brainer: Don’t get engaged before divorce is final ]]> Lead story image

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have been going through a rough divorce for over a year now and have met a wonderful man who wants to get engaged. My husband is trying to hold out in settling the divorce as long as he can for his own financial reasons. Is it unethical for me to get engaged while still going through this divorce, when he has moved on with another woman, and I am not dating someone? GENTLE READER: You’re not? And here Miss Manners would have thought that was a necessary prelude to becoming engaged. Perhaps you anticipate being in … ]]> Fri, 19 Sep 2014 16:34:00 -0500 <![CDATA[ Mother right: send thank you cards ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I just turned 14 and had a small party with relatives to celebrate it. A few days later, my mom bought me thank you cards and said I should send them out. I told the people “thank you” for the gifts in person. I don’t think thank you cards are necessary for something as small as birthdays. Shouldn’t they be reserved for things like weddings and baby showers? Mom and I are anxious to see your answer. — No Thank You Dear No Thank You: Listen to your mother, because she’s trying to tell you something important. When … ]]> Sat, 13 Sep 2014 02:04:32 -0500 <![CDATA[ Georgia Nicols horoscopes for Sept. 13 ]]> Lead story image

◆ARIES (March 21-April 19): Someone might surprise you with impulsive behavior. Or possibly, you will meet someone who is unusual and different. Relations with partners and close friends will be unpredictable — but they won’t be boring! Stay light on your feet. ◆TAURUS (April 20-May 20): Your work routine will be interrupted today perhaps because of computer crashes, power outages, fire drills, canceled meetings, staff shortages or something completely unexpected. It’s one of those days. You also feel independent and rebellious. Guard against fast, sloppy decisions. ◆GEMINI (May 21-June 20): This is an accident-prone day for your kids, so keep … ]]> Sat, 13 Sep 2014 02:04:43 -0500 <![CDATA[ Gay man’s parents still are in denial ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I’m a gay male college student who is out and comfortable with who I am — 99 percent of the time. When I was in high school, I tried to come out to my parents and it didn’t go smoothly. They had an emotional crisis for a day, then shrugged it off as “just another teenage phase.” After the panic mode was over, they bought me off with an expensive car and continued believing I’m straight. I make no attempt to hide who I am because I expect to be treated the same, regardless. But it’s awkward whenever … ]]> Fri, 12 Sep 2014 02:05:22 -0500 <![CDATA[ When a friend is no fan of your spouse ]]> Lead story image

DR. WALLACE: I’m 19 and have been married to my husband, who is 33, for seven months. We attend the same church, and he was also our Christian youth director. I came from a troubled home. My father was physically abusive to my mother and me, and I’m sure he’s an alcoholic, or at least headed that way. Ever since I met him, I really liked my now-husband. He brought hope and stability to my life. When he asked me to marry him, I jumped at the chance, and we have a very happy marriage. My very best friend and … ]]> Sun, 14 Sep 2014 02:08:22 -0500 <![CDATA[ Men, let the gloves come off ]]> Lead story image

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Do ladies remove gloves before shaking hands? What about gentlemen? GENTLE READER: Why does this question strike fear in Miss Manners’ brave heart? She knows the answer to your question, of course, and if you will be patient for a moment, she will give it to you. But then she will have to brace herself for the onslaught of indignant reactions from those who believe that any variation in expectations of ladies and gentlemen, no matter how trivial, constitutes oppression. You may notice that Miss Manners uses the term “ladies” here. She fails to see any conflict … ]]> Sun, 14 Sep 2014 02:08:32 -0500 <![CDATA[ Lover looks for way to reignite passion ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I’m in desperate need of help. I have been with my girlfriend for four years. With every long-term relationship, there are bound to be issues. I haven’t felt loved by her in a long time, and I think I have fallen out of love with her. I can’t even tell her that I love her anymore because I don’t want to lie. When we make love, it’s dull and boring. I want to feel the way I used to about her. When I was near her, my hairs used to stand up, my heart would race, my body … ]]> Sat, 06 Sep 2014 02:05:11 -0500 <![CDATA[ Georgia Nicols horoscopes for Sept. 12 ]]> Lead story image

◆ARIES (March 21-April 19): A lovely day! Look for ways to improve your income or job, because you can create a strong impression on bosses and authority figures. At the least, you might make your workplace more attractive or more comfortable. Seek out pleasure today! ◆TAURUS (April 20-May 20): You are lucky because the Moon is in your sign dancing beautifully with other planets. Enjoy good times with others! Sports events, flirtations, romantic getaways, playful times with children and the arts will delight. You might revise your views on politics or religion. ◆GEMINI (May 21-June 20): Because this is a … ]]> Fri, 12 Sep 2014 02:05:32 -0500 <![CDATA[ Health briefs for Sept. 10 ]]>

Chili cook-off honors first responders Avalon Springs Health Campus in Valparaiso is honoring first responders on Patriot Day with its inaugural Freedom Chili Cook-Off starting at 6 p.m. Thursday at the campus, 2400 Silhavy Road. The public and first responders from throughout northwest Indiana are welcome. The Chili Cook-Off will feature Hot, Traditional and Unique categories that anyone may enter for a fee of $20 per chili. Proceeds will benefit the Valparaiso FOP Lodge 76’s “Shop with a Cop” program, which provides back-to-school supplies, clothes and essentials, along with holiday food baskets to local children and families who are struggling … ]]> Wed, 10 Sep 2014 02:07:23 -0500 <![CDATA[ She’s sad daughter giving up her baby ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: My teenage daughter will be giving birth soon, and she has decided to place her baby for adoption. I have told her that whatever she decides, I will support her decision. Here is the difficult part: This will still be my biological grandchild. When this beautiful child is lovingly handed over to the adoptive parents, I will be losing a grandchild. I am already in mourning. Are there other grandparents out there who are going — or have gone — through this, and how are they coping? I already see a therapist, but I would still like to … ]]> Mon, 25 Aug 2014 02:06:05 -0500 <![CDATA[ Teens influence family spending ]]> Lead story image

DR. WALLACE: I’m wondering why many companies direct their advertising toward teens. Why do you think they do this since teens do not usually have a whole lot of cash to buy things? I know that I don’t, even though I get a small allowance. — Sara, Portage, Indiana SARA: You are correct. Advertisers aim at teens because they have a certain amount of influence on family purchases. Teenage Research Unlimited found that 71 percent of all teens do some family shopping, with 4 percent doing almost all of it (with their parents’ money). And only 13 percent were told … ]]> Sun, 07 Sep 2014 02:08:32 -0500 <![CDATA[ Precedence for aging no reason to take offense ]]> Lead story image

DEAR MISS MANNERS: On public transit, the law requires giving up one’s seat to the elderly and disabled. But there can be fuzzy areas to those categories sometimes, so I wonder if rules of etiquette can provide any guidelines. I am a 60-year-old man with slightly graying hair, but am physically fit and able (slim, walk four miles a day, gym three times a week, etc.). On recent occasions — though it’s still rare — someone has offered me his or her seat on the bus. The latest episode was a young woman who reached through a crowd of other … ]]> Sun, 07 Sep 2014 02:08:43 -0500 <![CDATA[ Health briefs for Sept. 3 ]]>

Porter County Health Walk set Two walks that raise funds for heart disease and stroke research are set for this month in Northwest Indiana, according to the American Heart Association. The Lake County Heart Walk is scheduled for 9 a.m. Sept. 13 at the Lake County Fairgrounds in Crown Point. The Porter County Heart Walk is at 9 a.m. Sept. 27 at the Coffee Creek Center in Chesterton. The noncompetitive one- to three-mile walks raise funds to support heart disease and stroke research and programs in Lake and Porter counties, according to the American Heart Association. Funds are raised by … ]]> Wed, 03 Sep 2014 02:07:45 -0500 <![CDATA[ Take a quick stance vs. bullying ]]> Lead story image

DR. WALLACE: I had a really bad year at school last year because two boys called me names and hit me every day. They made me give them my lunch money every day and threatened to beat me up every day after school if I told anyone. They said nobody would believe me if I told on them because they would say that I made it up. I hated going to school and I was happy when summer vacation was here. But now I am just dreading when summer ends and I’ll be going back to school again. What can … ]]> Sun, 31 Aug 2014 02:07:47 -0500 <![CDATA[ Bad behavior merits silent treatment ]]> Lead story image

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I’m in a sticky situation at my college. During my freshman and sophomore years, I was bullied by a group of five men. They made fun of me to my face, and they spread mean exaggerations and untrue rumors about me inside and outside class. This happened almost once per week. The situation became so overwhelmingly humiliating, frustrating and infuriating that I completely cut off communication with one of the men. I do not talk to him or look at him ever, even though we have mutual friends and see each other frequently. The problem is that … ]]> Sun, 31 Aug 2014 02:07:58 -0500